Grief and Loss

November 10, 2020
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Feeling grief and a sense of loss in the time of COVID is expected and now that the holidays are upon us, it can all seem overwhelming.

You may be experiencing feelings of loss related to time, opportunity, connection, a job, or simply your sense of normalcy and community – and those feelings are valid!

In Colorado we are in the midst of a devastating wildfire season. We are feeling a sense of loss to our local community about the mountains we recreate in, our homes and the animals. Our forests and Rocky Mountain National Park will be forever changed.

Collectively, we are carrying the weight of our own grief and the grief of others. It’s a lot to process; however, acknowledging and sitting with it can be a healthy way for all of us to move forward.

GRIEF IS PART OF THE COMMON EXPERIENCE RIGHT NOW:

Grief is what we experience when something changes or has ended without us choosing, and it is likely that everyone in the world is experiencing grief to some extent right now.

This can be felt with everything from school and job changes to spending less time with family and friends to missing lost loved ones. It can come on routinely during the day, when a certain song comes on the radio, or just in a moment when you see your kids accomplish a goal that you wish you could share with someone who has passed away.

Suffering cannot be avoided and at some point, we will all experience grief as a result. Having the tools to process and grow from it, however, is essential in dealing with it in a healthy manner.

If there is one tool that you remember it’s…you do not have to grieve alone.

As we are all in this together, it is best to process feelings with a trusted friend or loved one. Sharing feelings with others is one of the greatest tools to combat grief and establish a sense of connection.

Give yourself permission to feel all the difficult feelings that come with grief and to share that with people you know and trust.  

LIVING THROUGH GRIEF: 

It’s important to understand that “grief is highly individualized and unpredictable. Because grief obeys its own trajectory, there is no timetable for feelings of pain after loss; nor is it possible to avoid suffering altogether. In fact, attempts to suppress or deny grief are just as likely to prolong the process, while also demanding additional emotional effort.” (SOURCE)

The best way to experience grief is to learn to live with it and here are some ways to do just that:

  1. Share – Tell your story. Speak it, write it, create about it.
  2. Trust – Spend time with others. Meet outdoors, Face Time, phone a friend. Whatever it takes to avoid isolation!
  3. Play – Access art, music, connect with nature, pray/meditate
  4. Move – Physical exercise will promote your ability to maintain sleep hygiene and relax which are some of the best things you can do for your mental health, especially in times like now
  5. Nourish – Even if you don’t feel like it, do your best to eat regular, healthy meals.
  6. Identify and verbalize your feelings – it’s ok to reach out to a mental health professional to help. 

HOW THE WHOLENESS CENTER CAN SUPPORT YOUR GRIEF:

One of the worst things you can do to keep yourself from working through and healing from grief is to ignore your feelings – after all, nobody enjoys experiencing grief and all the difficult emotions that come with it.

“I specialize in grief work with people of all ages grieving from all forms of loss and in guiding clients through changing conditioned mind patterns. I have a passion for journeying with people who are wrestling with existential questions, who seek to find meaning and purpose in life, and with the abused and traumatized to seek and find healing, peace, trust, self-love and wholeness.”

Doreen Horan is a therapist specializing in grief support at Wholeness Center.  If you are experiencing a sense of grief or loss at this time, click here to schedule a consultation with Doreen Horan.

It’s possible that your grief is bordering on depression or is so pervasive that you are beginning to feel hopeless and isolated. If this is happening, ketamine treatment can help.

Given ketamine’s amazing potential for helping us break down the barriers our mind creates to seemingly protect us, it provides us with an aid for getting in touch with buried emotions and allowing us to feel those feelings so we can finally begin working through and moving forward from them.

If you are curious about alternative therapies like Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to support you as you process your grief, click here to schedule a consultation with Jason Sienknecht or click here to schedule with Sandra Fortson. 

 

 

SOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/grief